I never made a direct link to stress and unmet personal needs.

In 23 days I give over the keys to our home to the new owners. 

The frequency of waves of grief is once again present. 

Grief is stressful. 

Moving is stressful. 

I came across this quote and it made me pause. 

"Stress is simply present when our needs are not being met". ~ David Ji

Hmmm....before loss my default, when feeling stressed, was to increase my self-care, simplify and reprioritize and it was pretty much the focus with all my clients also. 

Supporting clients to identify and get their needs met was a popular coaching process as one of my main coaching principles is that to live a fulfilling, valued based life our needs must be met.

I never made a direct link to stress and unmet personal needs. 

During a major life transition it is not always possible to have your needs met but to take the time to consciously identify what needs are not being met and how you might get them met, can be the difference between barely emotionally surviving a life transition to effectively navigating your way through. 

Join me and dig a little deeper and be curious what personal needs may not be getting met at this time in your life?

Here are some examples of personal needs (beyond our basic survival needs) to consider: 

Security (emotional and financial).

Acceptance. 

Connection. 

Intimacy. 

Achievement.

Recognition. 

Control. 

Autonomy. 

Purpose.

Contribution. 

As I list these examples I realize all of the above are shaky for me at this time. Beginning with self-love and acceptance I know is the first call of order. In addition what I know for sure is that we all have the internal resources to get our needs met when externally it may not be available to us. 

Is this a stressful time?

Are you going through a major life transition? 

What might be your greatest unmet needs at this time in your life? 

Embrace your resourcefulness and commit to daily actions you can take to fulfill these needs. 

Committing to becoming needless will not only support you in navigating a stress-free life but also living a passionate and fulfilling one. 

Living a great life is our birthright and it begins with becoming needless.